Jesus doesn’t want to be your best friend and that’s great news. It might actually sound harsh, but really it is good news. I know there have been times where I’ve wanted him to be that role and even times when I’ve explained him to others in that way.
We are created in God’s image. We must be careful, however, to not create God in our image. You see Jesus “your best friend” is exactly that. No where does Jesus say, “if you want to follow me, be my BFF (best friend forever.)” The Jesus who is just ultimately your friend is super cool, wants to hang out when you can squeeze him in, wants you to be nice, and doesn’t really care what you do with your life as long as you are happy.
Is Jesus the coolest? No. Don’t get me wrong. I love Jesus and imagine it would be pretty awesome to actually hang out with Jesus. I am sure the apostles loved spending time with Jesus. However, when we make Jesus out to be whatever version of cool is relevant today, we can miss out on the fact that Jesus is a real person.
Does Jesus just want to hang out? No. Being a disciple requires discipline. God loves you perfectly for who you are. You can’t make his love for you increase or decrease. Being a disciple requires discipline and change because God has made us for more. He’s made us to share in his very life.
Does Jesus just want some time when you can squeeze him in? No. He’s much more of a jealous lover than a friend.
Song of Songs 8:6: “Set me as a seal upon your heart, upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm; For Love is strong as Death, longing is fierce as Sheol. Its arrows are arrows of fire, flames of the divine.”
In fact the image of a lover or husband and bride is more of the biblical image of what it means to follow Jesus. Best friends can be fickle or sometimes you don’t see them for a while. It’s awesome news when we realize Jesus’ real love is an every day encounter we can experience and not just some moment reserved for retreats or super saints.
Jesus loves you passionately. That might sound strange, especially if you are a guy. It’s true though. Jesus wants you to know him deeply. He wants your heart. Make an Easter commitment to spend time in prayer allowing yourself to enter into the love God has for you. Make a prayer of surrender. Give him your heart; ask him to show you his. I know he will answer this simple prayer.
How have you tangibly experienced Jesus recently? I would love to hear some of your story below!!